Dear Daughter,

Today I want to talk to you about having women as friends.
I believe women friends are like nature itself.

They can be the sea – embracing you wholly, whether you are happy or sad, whether you’re facing a challenge or celebrating a win. With no judgement. Just presence.

When life gives you a reason to celebrate, they become birds – singing along with your joy.
When you feel crushed, they become the wind beneath your wings.
When you’re in despair, they turn into mountains of strength.
And when the world feels cold, they become the soft, warm winter sun – a safe place where you can finally exhale and share the thoughts and emotions you don’t dare name in front of anyone else.

But remember, not all women are like this.
And not everyone will fit into this beautiful space of friendship.

So how do you recognise the right ones?

The first and most important thing is wavelength.
For women, long-lasting friendships are less about hobbies or similar tastes – and more about mental alignment and a shared value system.
You may enjoy different things in life, but if you genuinely like each other’s company
and feel aligned at a deeper level, that is what truly matters.

There will be many moments when you feel you cannot share things with anyone – especially if you grow up like I did, believing that “apne ghar ki baat kisi ko nahi batate.”
And honestly, for the most part, that advice protected me – because 98% of the time, people judge or make fun of what they don’t understand.

But even then, having just one friend with whom you can share a little
can lift so much heaviness off your chest.
For that, you must be absolutely sure that she won’t judge you,
won’t rush to give you a solution but will offer you a patient ear and a safe space.

And here is the litmus test of a true woman friend:
Does she defend you when you’re not in the room?
Real ones always do.

Don’t open up to everyone.
Some people may belittle you, mislead you, or take advantage of your softness.
Trust slowly. Observe deeply.

I have been blessed with a few amazing women friends – gentle, strong, honest souls who make life lighter and richer.

And my wish for you, my darling,
is that you, too, find such friendships, the kind that feel like unconditional love.

With all my heart,

Mumma